Sometimes people with the worst pasts end up creating the best futures.

The summer I graduated Valedictorian was the same summer my father went to prison for slitting a mans throat with a box cutter.

I am proud to be able to say that. Obviously, not because of what my Dad did but because it paints a clear picture of how hard that accomplishment was.

I lived with my father at the time. It was bad, I did all my “nerdy” studying in a shack where random crack heads and fist fights would take place. Actually I had spent my entire childhood surviving abuse, pressure to do drugs, and the death of my role-model. Every day was scary, chaotic, and unpredictable.

That’s why when I was 9 I decided that no matter what, I was going to create a calm and happy life someday. School was my only hope so that was where I focused all my attention and energy. At home there was a lot of screaming that took place every evening. So I started sacrificing my recesses for homework, beginning in the 4th grade.

I was a mess as a kid, constantly in a state of worry, but it comes with the environment I think.

Graduating top of my class was my rebellion against life. I felt like I was born to fail, with the cards stacked against me, but I had a different plan, I rose above.

While graduation and moving out at 18 was the end of one chapter, I learned it was only the beginning of the next. It marked the start of a long and powerful journey to heal and strengthen.

I don’t think our past ever leaves us but we can make it a weapon that we wield rather than one that pierces our soul.

What about you?

Did you go through some really difficult shit?

Your life may have been less or a hundred times more difficult than mine. But it doesn’t matter, what does matter is that you can do something about it. Seriously, I needed to hear that, so I think you do too. You can do something about the nasty, hurtful past that currently torments you. You can change your life.

Your past has given you the strength and wisdom you have today, so celebrate it. Don’t let it haunt you.

In fact by overcoming the bullshit, you’ll become a much stronger person than you ever would have been had you not faced adversity at all.

That’s why I started this blog. Despite the odds, I know you can make your life what you want it to be.

I’ve been able to create a life that I had never imagined.

One where:

Drugs and alcohol aren’t for dinner.
Pictures hang from the wall for decoration, not just to hide punched in holes.
The home smells fresh instead of like pot smoke and cat piss.
It’s quite and peaceful.

And eventually:

Confidence and gratitude replaced anxiety and depression.
Love replaced anger and sadness.
I learned how to create good habits. Like how to eat, save money, exercise, relax, and learn properly.
How to use the survival skills and wisdom I gained from my past as a superpower.

I want to share my failures and successes with you. No I’m not a psychologist, psychiatrist, or certified counselor. If that’s what you’re looking for or need, please go see a professional, they’ve certainly helped me.

But if you just want to hear from a average joe that knows what it’s like to be in semi-similar shoes as you, that’s where I can help.

My hope is that you’ll let me help you see your past in an empowering way and save you some time in creating the life you deserve.

Are you in?

If you’re willing to stick around and be part of the community, please introduce yourself in the comments, I’d like to get to know you.