[This post is the first post of my How to Be Happy Everyday Series. To read tips 4-6 please visit: How to Be Happy Everyday: Fix Unhappiness, Easy Goals, and Health. To read tips 7-10 please visit: How to Be Happy Everyday: Happiness Journal, Be You, Enhance, and Brighten.]
There is no way to happiness – happiness is the way. – Thich Nhat Hanh
In case you are new here, my main goal is to share with my readers (you) how to be happy everyday. Of course I have never thought the goal of being happy all day everyday was realistic! However, I know for a fact that it is possible to experience happiness on a daily basis.
My New Year’s resolution was to create daily happiness for myself, and I can happily say throughout the year I have found some amazing strategies that have worked wonderfully for me! In this series I have picked the cream of the crop and will only be discussing those superb strategies which had the largest impact on my daily happiness.
I expect that you are here looking for tips to make your own life happy everyday. First thing I want to say is feel no shame in searching for help, be proud that you are wise enough to look for ways to solve your own problems. I know how it feels to look around and see nothing but happiness in others lives and wonder, “What in the heck am I doing wrong?”. Life is hard and it will wear on you, but it takes conscious effort to make things better!
Oh and a lot of those happy folks you see could be acting (I’ve done it, haven’t you?)! I don’t want you to have to pretend like you are happy, so I encourage you to try the 10 tips in this series that I successfully use to keep happy everyday.
10 Tips on Being Happy Everyday
1. Think of Yourself as a Mirror
The best way to cheer yourself up is to try to cheer somebody else up. – Mark Twain
In short send out good vibrations. What I mean by the mirror analogy is that the world (perspective) that you experience is in large a reflection of what you are sending out. If you are somebody who smiles a lot – odds are that more people are going to smile at you. When people smile at you, you feel happy. When you feel happy you smile at people… and the cycle continues.
I’m not recommending you go around with a fake smile on your face because well, you are a mirror! A non-genuine smile means a non-genuine or no smile back – I’m sure you can spot a fake smile, and so can others. Smiles aren’t even the sole point here. The point is that the more good things you do – giving others compliments, being helpful, etc. – the more chances you have of receiving similar notions back in your own life. Be rude and receive rudeness – its that simple and I’m sure you’ve already experienced it.
If you can do this right it becomes a daily happiness double whammy – you feel happy giving these good actions and you certainly feel happy receiving them!
2. A is for Acceptance
We tend to forget that happiness doesn’t come as a result of getting something we don’t have, but rather of recognizing and appreciating what we do have. – Frederick Keonig
Not only do I mean to accept yourself, but to accept others and situations in your life. Before you read the rest I want you to think of a few things that you don’t currently accept (it will make the reading more relevant – I promise). Could it be your – Job? Past? Actions of others? Where you live? Decisions of your boss/government/spouse?
I have learned that for everything I don’t accept – I have one more thing to fight against which takes away my positive energy.
I am not saying it is bad to not accept some things, but make sure you are choosing carefully. Not accepting a life with an abusive partner, a bad job, or an addiction to cigarettes is okay. It’s obviously great to fight and exert energy to change these happiness drainers. But not accepting where you live, the fact that your sibling has different political views, or that you have a life-lasting injury can be crippling.
I have found a way to get over the things in my life that I cannot accept. What I do is focus on one thing at a time and try to change it until I have exhausted myself. The result is always good – I have either changed what I didn’t accept to something I do, realized during my efforts that I do accept what I once didn’t, or I become so tired that I accept it because it’s better than the alternative (working so doggone hard to change it)!
For example, I used to hate Ohio. I couldn’t stand the bi-polar weather and couldn’t accept living here for the rest of my life.
So I decided to do everything I could to change this and move to the beach! I applied to jobs in St. Petersburg, FL and got a job offer. My girlfriend and I went down and stayed for a week, scoping out the area and considering where we would live. Well to my surprise, we both had knots in our stomachs – worrying about being so far away from (home) our families, not to mention we hated the palm trees and flat earth (any real tree, hill, or woods lovers out there?).
So through this hard, time-consuming process I learned to accept Ohio as my home. I now even feel grateful to live here. It’s a complete 180 – something that used to make me unhappy now does the opposite, I feel grateful.
By accepting more of the things you currently have in your life, you will largely increase your daily happiness.
We cannot be happy if we expect to live all the time at the highest peak of intensity. Happiness is not a matter of intensity but of balance and order and rhythm and harmony. – Thomas Merton, 1955
That’s right, it’s not just for children! To be happy you should make time to play everyday.
Make a list of hobbies and activities that you enjoy and try do at least one of them everyday – even if it’s just for a little while. It might even help to plan when this time will be that way you have something to look forward to everyday.
Do a crossword, read, fish, play Farmville, watch your favorite show – I’m telling you that these things are good for you (in moderation of course)!
Even better is when you can surround yourself with happiness during play. Happiness rubs off, so can you invite positive friends to join in the activity? How about the show – can you make it a funny sitcom? Is there a club full of happy like-minded people you can join to compliment your hobby?
Your play is customized to you. But there is one rule you must follow to make it effective: allow no outside distractions or worries. No work calls, no disturbances from family – it is meant to be a time for you to have uninterrupted fun!
[This post is the first post of my How to Be Happy Everyday Series. To see tips 4-6 please visit: How to Be Happy Everyday: Fix Unhappiness, Easy Goals, and Health. To read tips 7-10 please visit: How to Be Happy Everyday: Happiness Journal, Be You, Enhance, and Brighten.]
To begin feeling happy everyday:
1st – Send out the good vibrations you wish to feel reflected back.
2nd – Accept more of the things you cannot change.
3rd – Make time to play!
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