YOU read positivity blogs, watch inspirational YouTube videos, devour self-help books and find that your life has improved… very little. Is it because personal-development is a complete SHAM?
I don’t think so, if the above is true for you it is likely because you are not ready to begin working on personal-development. I mean no offense, but according to Abraham Maslow’s Hierarchy of needs, before you can begin the pursuit of growth needs (love, confidence, self-esteem, respect, creativity, purpose, and self-actualization) you must first attain basic needs. Without the basic physiological and safety needs (food, sleep, income, health, and shelter) your mind and body will be too deprived to be able to consume and process the knowledge needed for personal success.
Take me for example, I have been reading personal-development books since I was a teen. However, as a teen I was often overwhelmed with worry of where I would live, what I would eat, and how I was going to make enough money to support myself. I read tons of books that taught valuable lessons in love, finance, productivity, and happiness throughout those years. Do you think a single one of them made a difference in my life?
The answer is no, my basic needs were so deficient that my mind wasn’t motivated to achieve anything more than finding the next meal to eat or a stable place to live. Take a look at the chart above, if the bottom two rungs are still lacking for you, I encourage you to put all of the self-help material on the back-burner and only concentrate on fulfilling those basic needs first.
Now that I am in my mid-twenties and have a full-time job, I have finally been able to move up to the third level of the pyramid and am having tremendous success. It took me 8 years to get to this point, but it’s worth it!
Personal-development leads to self-actualization which is the greatest accomplishment I believe anyone can achieve in life. Self-actualization is the process of growing and developing until you have reached your max potential as a human being. Stated another way, “what a man can be, he must be.”
When you are self-actualized everything clicks, you have complete self-acceptance, understand your purpose, and are living the life of your dreams. The tendency to become more and more what you truly are is only natural. However, your efforts will be futile if there is no foundation (basic needs) in which to build upon.
So ask yourself, is this the best time for you to begin your personal-development journey? Are your physical needs so sound that it is only logical for you to being working on your social and psychological needs?
If the answer is no, I encourage you to start kicking butt and do what it takes to meet your basic needs. Once you are no longer deprived of the basic needs of life, you’ll be able to unleash your full-power toward growth! If yes, I congratulate you and invite you to run alongside me as I too travel on the invigorating journey toward self-actualization.
Are YOU ready to begin the process of reaching your max potential?