Tiny TweaksTo Prevent Your Past from Sabatoging Your Present

You Can’t Help Yourself Until You Know What You Want

Do you feel like life has more to offer you?

Do you experience stress and anxiety?

Do you struggle to help yourself?

Directions Don’t Help, Without A Destination

Imagine that you are given a map and told you can use it to get to a place where you would experience everything you ever wanted. The problem however is that the map doesn’t tell you the destination. How frustrating?

Most self-help articles are a complete waste of time because they give directions to a reader that doesn’t know their destination. Even on this website, I offer advice on building permanent habits but if you don’t know what you want, you can’t use habits to change your life.

Another problem with self-help is that it is an oxymoron. The reader is asking the author to help them which isn’t “self” help. True self help can only come from the reader, the reader has to provide the big answers, no author can do that.

What Matters Most?

I felt stressed and anxious most of my life. My childhood was chaotic and I didn’t even know a peaceful life was possible until I was in my 20’s.

Fortunately things started to get better when I stumbled upon a book about minimalism, which led to one on essentialism. Minimalism and essentialism sound fancy but they are just a set of beliefs about enhancing joy by knowing what you want out of life.

When you know what you want, life becomes easy. You start getting rid of things and obligations that weigh you down so that all is left is what you enjoy.

You stop diluting life with the good and instead concentrate on the great.

Do you know what you want most out of your life?
What the point is?
The big picture?

I challenge you to see if you can clearly write the answer to that question.

If you can’t it is vital that you take a few minutes to find this clarity.

Here’s mine: To contribute and enjoy quality time with family and friends.

I could expand on how I wish to contribute and spend quality time but the specifics don’t matter to me.

If you’re struggling, don’t overthink it, don’t criticize yourself for being too simple, or not having a grandiose dream, just trust your instincts. Don’t worry about what culture or your mother thinks you should want out of life, what matters is what you want.

So stop here, take a minute and answer, “What do I want most out of my life?”. Find a way to keep yourself from forgetting. Maybe write it down and hang it up or put it in your wallet.

By answering that big question, now you know your destination. The rest is easy.

When you know the big picture you can start making tiny tweaks to your habits to get and keep you there permanently.

A word of caution: Start those tweaks now. If you wait it will never happen.

You will forever thank yourself for the momentum you you set forward on this day.

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